how to choose java nio vs io?

IMHO, Blocking IO is generally the simplest to use, and unless you have a specific requirement which demands more from your system, you should stick with simplest option.

The next simplest option is blocking NIO, which I often prefer if I want something more efficiency or control than IO. It is still relatively simple but allows you to use ByteBuffers. e.g. ByteBuffers support little endian.

A common option is to use non-blocking NIO with Selectors. Much of the complexity this introduces can be handled by frameworks such as Netty or Mina. I suggest you use such a library if you need non-blocking IO e.g. because you have thousands of concurrent connections per server. IMHO You have thousands of connections, you should consider having more servers unless what each connection does is pretty trivial. AFAIK google go for more servers rather thousands of users per server.

The more extreme option is to use NIO2. This is even more complex and lengthy it write than non-blocking NIO. I don't know of any frameworks which support this well. i.e. it is actually faster when you do. AFAIK It appears this is worth using if you have Infiniband (which is what it was designed to support) but perhaps not worth using if you have Ethernet.

You would only use NIO if you can justify the inevitable complexity that it introduces. If you do not have any guidance in terms of the expected load, and also in terms of whether your product / project has the resources to maintain the relevant code, then your should err on the side of caution and use IO.

To give my answer some weight, I have just spent three months maintaining and bug fixing an integration layer where raw Java NIO (i.e. no overarching framework was used) was used. The design was based, in essence, on client threads adding messages to a queue and a small number of worker threads performing their NIO magic and then passing replies back to client threads in an event-based manner. In retrospect, I cannot justify the original decision to use NIO, since it became a distraction that ate significant amounts of time that should have been spent on higher level business logic.

If you want non-blocking IO, NIO is not the better choice—it's the only choice in Java. Keep in mind that people still use the old IO regularly because it is way simpler to code against. NIO API is quite raw and is more of an enabling low-level technology than a client-side API. I suggest using NIO through an API that provides a simpler interface to the problems you want to solve using non-blocking IO.

A little late, but personally, I use NIO even for the regular "everyday" file handling. So, I use things like:

 1. if(Files.notExists(path)) { } 
 2. Files.createDirectory(path);
 3. Files.newInputStream(path) targetPath.resolve("somefile.txt");
 4. Files.newBufferedWriter(path, charset);
 5. DirectoryStream<Path> directoryStream = Files.newDirectoryStream(path);

and it works fine for me. I prefer Path instead of the old File because of methods like relativize or resolveSibling.

Doesn't strike me as more complicated than IO.