IIS Manager - Connect to Another Server (Win7 to Win2008 server)
Solution 1:
Turns out I needed to install "IIS Manager for Remote Administration", which is discussed (and available for download) at http://www.iis.net/expand/IISManager. Why this is not part of the Windows 7 "Remote Administration Tools" I'm not sure. But after installing this I get the additional "connect" options.
Solution 2:
In Windows 8 (or Windows 7), you can use the Web Platform Installer to install the IIS Manager for Remote Administration. It's under 2MB.
The latest version should be available.