acts_as_list with has_and_belongs_to_many relationship

I trying with self-referencing like that

class Product < ActiveRecord::Base
  has_many :cross_sales
  has_many :cross_sales_products, :through => :cross_sales, :order => 'cross_sales.position'
end

class CrossSale < ActiveRecord::Base
  default_scope :order => 'cross_sales.position'
  belongs_to :product
  belongs_to :cross_sales_product, :class_name => "Product"
  acts_as_list :scope => :product
end

create_table :cross_sales, :force => true, :id => false do |t|
  t.integer :product_id, :cross_sales_product_id, :position
end

But the field cross_sales.position is never updated ...

An idea ?

Update: Ok the field 'id' it's necessary in the case of additional model with has_many :through option. It's work well now

Additional update for the accepted answer: for Rails 4 and Rails 5:

has_many :events, -> { order 'artist_events.position ASC' }, through: :artist_events
has_many :artists, -> { order 'artist_events.position ASC' }, through: :artist_events

I'm assuming that you have two models - Artist and Event.

You want to have an habtm relationship between them and you want to be able to define an order of events for each artist.

Here's my solution. I'm writing this code from my head, but similar solution works in my case. I'm pretty sure there is a room for improvement.

I'm using rails acts_as_list plugin.

That's how I would define models:

class Artist < ActiveRecord::Base
  has_many :artist_events
  has_many :events, :through => :artist_events, :order => 'artist_events.position'
end

class Event < ActiveRecord::Base
  has_many :artist_events
  has_many :artists, :through => :artist_events, :order => 'artist_events.position'
end

class ArtistEvent < ActiveRecord::Base
  default_scope :order => 'position'
  belongs_to :artist
  belongs_to :event
  acts_as_list :scope => :artist
end

As you see you need an additional model ArtistEvent, joining the other two. The artist_events table should have two foreign ids and additional column - position.

Now you can use acts_as_list methods (on ArtistEvent model, unfortunately) but something like

Artist.find(:id).events

should give you a list of events belonging to specific artist in correct order.