How do I specify a linked server to a remote database over tcp/ip?

I don't see a reason why you should be using a DSN. Create the linked server using the SQL Server Native Client directly:

EXEC master.dbo.sp_addlinkedserver
    @server     = N'MAIN',
    @srvproduct = N'SQLServ', -- it’s not a typo: it can’t be “SQLServer”
    @provider   = N'SQLNCLI', 
    @datasrc    = N'I .P_Address';

Then you can create the local/remote login pairs:

-- Pair local and remote logins
EXEC master.dbo.sp_addlinkedsrvlogin
    @rmtsrvname  = N'MAIN',
    @useself     = N'False',
    @locallogin  = N'Local_user_name',
    @rmtuser     = N'Remote_user_name',
    @rmtpassword = N'Remote_password';v