How to find out what is locking my tables?

Take a look at the following system stored procedures, which you can run in SQLServer Management Studio (SSMS):

• sp_who
• sp_lock

Also, in SSMS, you can view locks and processes in different ways:

Different versions of SSMS put the activity monitor in different places. For example, SSMS 2008 and 2012 have it in the context menu when you right-click on a server node.

For getting straight to "who is blocked/blocking" I combined/abbreviated sp_who and sp_lock into a single query which gives a nice overview of who has what object locked to what level.

--Create Procedure WhoLock
--AS
set nocount on
if object_id('tempdb..#locksummary') is not null Drop table #locksummary
if object_id('tempdb..#lock') is not null Drop table #lock
create table #lock (    spid int,    dbid int,    objId int,    indId int,    Type char(4),    resource nchar(32),    Mode char(8),    status char(6))
Insert into #lock exec sp_lock
if object_id('tempdb..#who') is not null Drop table #who
create table #who (     spid int, ecid int, status char(30),
            loginame char(128), hostname char(128),
            blk char(5), dbname char(128), cmd char(16)
            --
            , request_id INT --Needed for SQL 2008 onwards
            --
         )
Insert into #who exec sp_who
Print '-----------------------------------------'
Print 'Lock Summary for ' + @@servername  + ' (excluding tempdb):'
Print '-----------------------------------------' + Char(10)
Select     left(loginame, 28) as loginame, 
    left(db_name(dbid),128) as DB,
    left(object_name(objID),30) as object,
    max(mode) as [ToLevel],
    Count(*) as [How Many],
    Max(Case When mode= 'X' Then cmd Else null End) as [Xclusive lock for command],
    l.spid, hostname
into #LockSummary
from #lock l join #who w on l.spid= w.spid
where dbID != db_id('tempdb') and l.status='GRANT'
group by dbID, objID, l.spid, hostname, loginame

Select * from #LockSummary order by [ToLevel] Desc, [How Many] Desc, loginame, DB, object

Print '--------'
Print 'Who is blocking:'
Print '--------' + char(10)
SELECT p.spid
,convert(char(12), d.name) db_name
, program_name
, p.loginame
, convert(char(12), hostname) hostname
, cmd
, p.status
, p.blocked
, login_time
, last_batch
, p.spid
FROM      master..sysprocesses p
JOIN      master..sysdatabases d ON p.dbid =  d.dbid
WHERE     EXISTS (  SELECT 1
          FROM      master..sysprocesses p2
          WHERE     p2.blocked = p.spid )

Print '--------'
Print 'Details:'
Print '--------' + char(10)
Select     left(loginame, 30) as loginame,  l.spid,
    left(db_name(dbid),15) as DB,
    left(object_name(objID),40) as object,
    mode ,
    blk,
    l.status
from #lock l join #who w on l.spid= w.spid
where dbID != db_id('tempdb') and blk <>0
Order by mode desc, blk, loginame, dbID, objID, l.status

(For what the lock level abbreviations mean, see e.g. https://technet.microsoft.com/en-us/library/ms175519%28v=sql.105%29.aspx)

Copied from: sp_WhoLock – a T-SQL stored proc combining sp_who and sp_lock...

NB the [Xclusive lock for command] column can be misleading -- it shows the current command for that spid; but the X lock could have been triggered by an earlier command in the transaction.

exec sp_lock

This query should give you existing locks.

exec sp_who SPID -- will give you some info

Having spids, you could check activity monitor(processes tab) to find out what processes are locking the tables ("details" for more info and "kill process" to kill it).