I've heard i++ isn't thread safe, is ++i thread-safe?
You've heard wrong. It may well be that "i++" is thread-safe for a specific compiler and specific processor architecture but it's not mandated in the standards at all. In fact, since multi-threading isn't part of the ISO C or C++ standards (a), you can't consider anything to be thread-safe based on what you think it will compile down to.
It's quite feasible that ++i could compile to an arbitrary sequence such as:
load r0,[i] ; load memory into reg 0
incr r0 ; increment reg 0
stor [i],r0 ; store reg 0 back to memory
which would not be thread-safe on my (imaginary) CPU that has no memory-increment instructions. Or it may be smart and compile it into:
lock ; disable task switching (interrupts)
load r0,[i] ; load memory into reg 0
incr r0 ; increment reg 0
stor [i],r0 ; store reg 0 back to memory
unlock ; enable task switching (interrupts)
where lock disables and unlock enables interrupts. But, even then, this may not be thread-safe in an architecture that has more than one of these CPUs sharing memory (the lock may only disable interrupts for one CPU).
The language itself (or libraries for it, if it's not built into the language) will provide thread-safe constructs and you should use those rather than depend on your understanding (or possibly misunderstanding) of what machine code will be generated.
Things like Java synchronized and pthread_mutex_lock() (available to C/C++ under some operating systems) are what you need to look into (a).
(a) This question was asked before the C11 and C++11 standards were completed. Those iterations have now introduced threading support into the language specifications, including atomic data types (though they, and threads in general, are optional, at least in C).
You can't make a blanket statement about either ++i or i++. Why? Consider incrementing a 64-bit integer on a 32-bit system. Unless the underlying machine has a quad word "load, increment, store" instruction, incrementing that value is going to require multiple instructions, any of which can be interrupted by a thread context switch.
In addition, ++i isn't always "add one to the value." In a language like C, incrementing a pointer actually adds the size of the thing pointed to. That is, if i is a pointer to a 32-byte structure, ++i adds 32 bytes. Whereas almost all platforms have an "increment value at memory address" instruction that is atomic, not all have an atomic "add arbitrary value to value at memory address" instruction.
They are both thread-unsafe.
A CPU cannot do math directly with memory. It does that indirectly by loading the value from memory and doing the math with CPU registers.
i++
register int a1, a2;
a1 = *(&i) ; // One cpu instruction: LOAD from memory location identified by i;
a2 = a1;
a1 += 1;
*(&i) = a1;
return a2; // 4 cpu instructions
++i
register int a1;
a1 = *(&i) ;
a1 += 1;
*(&i) = a1;
return a1; // 3 cpu instructions
For both cases, there is a race condition that results in the unpredictable i value.
For example, let's assume there are two concurrent ++i threads with each using register a1, b1 respectively. And, with context switching executed like the following:
register int a1, b1;
a1 = *(&i);
a1 += 1;
b1 = *(&i);
b1 += 1;
*(&i) = a1;
*(&i) = b1;
In result, i doesn't become i+2, it becomes i+1, which is incorrect.
To remedy this, moden CPUs provide some kind of LOCK, UNLOCK cpu instructions during the interval a context switching is disabled.
On Win32, use InterlockedIncrement() to do i++ for thread-safety. It's much faster than relying on mutex.