VS2008: Disable asking whether to reload files changed outside the IDE
For VS2008: Tools
> Options
> Documents
> Detect when a file is changed outside the environment
For VS2010/2012/2013/2015: Tools
> Options
> Environment
> Documents
> Detect when a file is changed outside the environment
Because a picture paints a thousand words...
In Visual Studio Pro 2012
There is an "Auto-Load changes, if saved" that works.
Tools > Options > Environment > Documents > Detect when a file is changed > Auto-Load changes, if saved