What is a tensor category?

There is no single accepted definition of “tensor category” that matches all uses. Almost always it means abelian (or a similar cocomplete condition) and k-linear. Usually it also means rigid. Often it also means the unit object is simple. Occasionally it also means symmetric. You just have to look at the definition used in each particular paper.

There seem to be many different definitions in the literature, based on individual papers. But, I think that might change, now that the textbook Tensor Categories, by Etingof, Gelaki, Nikshych, and Ostrik, has appeared. They define a tensor category as follows:

Let $k$ be an algebraically closed field, and $C$ a locally finite $k$-linear abelian rigid monoidal category. If the bifunctor $\otimes: C\times C\to C$ is bilinear on morphisms, then $C$ is called a multitensor category. Assume that $C$ is indecomposable (i.e. not equivalent to a direct sum of nonzero multitensor categories). If $End_C(1) \cong k$ then $C$ is called a tensor category.

Of course, I've also seen tensor category used to mean monoidal category, often in papers to do with braidings. But, generally, tensor means more than monoidal. This is also true in homotopy theory: a tensor model category has to satisfy more than a monoidal model category (it needs the functors $X\otimes -$ and $-\otimes X$ to preserve weak equivalences, for cofibrant X; see this paper of mine with Yau).

Anyway, I agree with Noah that you should try to figure it out from context, and asking questions like this is a good way to make sure people are being careful with the terminology, so that we don't end up with even more definitions! For myself, I'll only use "tensor category" for what Etingof, Gelaki, Nikshych, and Ostrik mean.