Chemistry - Why do molecules have to have a change in dipole moment in order for them to be IR active?
Solution 1:
There is an intuitive reason why a vibration is IR-active only if it involves a change in the dipole moment.
Recall that the typical wavelength of IR radiation ($\sim 10\mu\mathrm{m}$) is much larger than the typical size of a molecule ($\sim 1\mathrm{nm}$). Hence, to a very good approximation, the (time-varying) electric field of the IR radiation is spatially uniform within a molecule.
Now observe that under a spatially uniform electric field, all positive charges, regardless of their positions, are pushed to a common direction, and all negative charges are pushed to exactly the opposite direction. In this case, can the change in the total dipole moment, defined as $\Delta \vec{\mu} = \sum_{i} q_{i} \Delta \vec{r}_{i}$, be equal to zero?
Clearly, the answer is "No." The displacements $\{\Delta \vec{r}_{i}\}$ are parallel between like charges and antiparallel between opposite charges. Therefore, $\{q_{i}\Delta\vec{r}_{i}\}$ are all parallel to one another, and $\vec{\Delta\mu}$ cannot be equal to zero.
So far, I have argued that a motion induced by a spatially uniform electric field always involves a change in the dipole moment. A corollary is that any motion that does not involve a change in the dipole moment cannot be induced by a spatially uniform electric field (of IR radiation).
As a simple example, imagine applying a spatially uniform electric field to a $\ce{CO_{2}}$ molecule such that the direction of the field is parallel to the length of the molecule. Can this field ever induce a symmetric stretch, in which the two oxygen atoms move in opposite directions? Certainly no. Both oxygen atoms are negatively charged by exactly the same amount. Under a spatially uniform electric field, they are pushed to the same direction by the same magnitude, and there is no room for a symmetric stretch.
Solution 2:
As a molecule vibrates, if there is a fluctuation in its dipole moment, then this induces an electric field that interacts with the electric field associated with the infra red radiation. If there is a match in frequency of the radiation and the natural vibration of the molecule, absorption occurs.
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