Notepad++ find in files filter EXCLUDE
not that its a GOOD answer, but, what I've found that works is this
*.sql ; *.asp ; *.html ; *.as ; *.mxml
Its definitely not an 'exclude' list, but, by including all the types I need to look at, I get the same result. In my case, I've only got those handfuls of types that I look for often. If your set was wider, this would become even less useful.
Note, as of December 5th, 2019, Notepad++ 7.8.2 now supports exclude filters. The help documentation describes exclude filters in the Find in Files tab section.
For example to exclude exe, zip and jar files, your 'find in files' filter will look like this;
*.* !*.exe !*.zip !*.jar
Relevant code change in the GitHub commit.