Sequence Diagram Reverse Engineering
I think jtracert is what you are looking for. It generates a sequence diagram from a running Java program. Also, because its output is a text description of the diagram (in the formats of several popular SD tools), you can use grep to filter for only the classes you are interested in.
Try MaintainJ. MaintainJ generates sequence diagrams at runtime for a use case. It provides multiple ways to filter out unwanted calls. Yes, filtering out unwanted calls is the most important feature needed in sequence diagram generating tools. Besides, MaintainJ provides a neat interface to explore the diagram and search for calls in one use case or across use cases.
Check the demo video to get a quick overview.
I am the author of MaintainJ, by the way.
I believe the perfect tool to solve your problem is Diver: Dynamic Interactive Views For Reverse Engineering. It provides both static and dynamic sequence diagrams and looks to solve all your requirements from your question.
It is a plugin for Eclipse and lets you:
- Easily trace your Java programs
- Visualize your program’s runtime functionality
- Filter your traces to make them more compact
- Filter your IDE based on what occurs at runtime
- See what code ran in your source code editors
It's on Github and there is also a project web site
Full Disclosure: I am the current project lead for Diver