Spring Custom Annotation Validation with multiple field

For this you can use a type level annotation only because a field level annotation has no access to other fields!

I did something similar to allow a choice validation (exactly one of a number of properties has to be not null). In your case the @AllOrNone annotation (or whatever name you prefer) would need an array of field names and you will get the whole object of the annotated type to the validator:

@Target(ElementType.TYPE)
@Retention(RUNTIME)
@Documented
@Constraint(validatedBy = AllOrNoneValidator.class)
public @interface AllOrNone {
    String[] value();

    String message() default "{AllOrNone.message}";
    Class<?>[] groups() default {};
    Class<? extends Payload>[] payload() default {};
}

public class AllOrNoneValidator implements ConstraintValidator<AllOrNone, Object> {
    private static final SpelExpressionParser PARSER = new SpelExpressionParser();
    private String[] fields;

    @Override
    public void initialize(AllOrNone constraintAnnotation) {
        fields = constraintAnnotation.value();
    }

    @Override
    public boolean isValid(Object value, ConstraintValidatorContext context) {
        long notNull = Stream.of(fields)
                .map(field -> PARSER.parseExpression(field).getValue(value))
                .filter(Objects::nonNull)
                .count();
        return notNull == 0 || notNull == fields.length;
    }
}

(As you said you use Spring I used SpEL to allow even nested fields access)

Now you can annotate your Subscriber type:

@AllOrNone({"birthday", "confirmBirthday"})
public class Subscriber {
    private String name;
    private String email;
    private Integer age;
    private String phone;
    private Gender gender;
    private Date birthday;
    private Date confirmBirthday;
    private String birthdayMessage;
    private Boolean receiveNewsletter;
}