Visual studio indentaion of function arguments
No, there's no way "out of the box" to force Visual Studio to indent code that way. It's always going to indent wrapped function parameters with only a single tab.
It turns out that such a style is in accordance with Microsoft's general coding guidelines, and probably why they've written it that way. I don't much care for it either, though, also preferring your style.
But it turns out that you only have to manually indent the first wrapped parameter. Subsequently, when you press Enter, Visual Studio will automatically start the next line underneath your first carefully lined up parameter.
Also remember that (if you've already written the method definitions), you can select multiple lines at a time and use the Tab key to line them all up. You don't have to do one at a time.
In general, there are unfortunately extremely limited code formatting options available for C/C++ code in Visual Studio. The C# programmers get a lot more goodies. You might be able to invest in an add-in or extension like Visual Assist X that gets you more features in the IDE.