How to make sense of font metrics?
Here is an attempt at answering item 2, assuming you are using a traditional TeX or pdfTeX format with TFM-based fonts (not XeLaTeX or LuaLaTeX):
For plain TeX, there is testfont.tex
.
For LaTeX, the fonttable
package does something similar. For context, there is the \showfont
command.
PS: I have no idea how to answer anything else; 1 and 3 are much too general for an answer that is shorter than a medium-sized book, and I know nothing of 4.