thunderbird: set default dictionary
Setting the default language for spelling checking in the new message editor in Thunderbird:
Menu - Settings - Composition - Spelling - Language
I had the same problem for some time. For me what worked was installing again the diccionary that I want as default and then selecting them in the Options:
Menu -> Tools -> Options -> Composition -> Spelling -> Language
It is also from this very same place whence you can download and install the dictionary you need.